Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 1)

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/better-not-click-if-youre-enjoying-a-happy-christmas-did-you-ever-find-out-your-parents-no-longer-love-you-and-how-did-you-react-cope-with-it.1069110/#post-133453533

Let me get this straight...your mother got you something useful that you might use to bring joy to others and yourself and your father changed a meaningless tradition to accommodate people you haven't seen in 10 years and might not see for another 10 years and you think they did it all because they don't love you?

Dude, you're either trolling or you are the least resilient person on this forum. Just read what others in this thread have been through and think about what you posted.

Post straight after

This is just unkind and unnecessary. Maybe take your own advice and think about what you're posting.

Of course the first thing they attempt when confronted with common sense is to try to start a dogpile to get the person banned.


At least bork's dog did the right thing.

Sometimes people need blunt, straightforward communication. The OP reads like someone deliberately trying to be mad at perfectly explainable (even admirable) situations. OP might need to reflect on how their reactions to the situation they're in might be the problem.

Wait, is Dog of Bork a The Great Tumbler from OG bore alt?

[Snoopy]

One year my parents bought me church clothes and that's it. The thing that hurt even more was they didn't even fit me and way too big. The exact size my father wore. Christmas presents were clothes for my dad gifted to me

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/blake-lively-sues-it-ends-with-us-producer-for-sexual-harassment-update-baldoni-dropped-by-wme.1067124/#post-133307703

User banned(3 Weeks): Inappropriate joke, downplaying concerns of sexual harassment

I will say Blake having a petty squabble with her director is the most interesting thing about this movie.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/blake-lively-sues-it-ends-with-us-producer-for-sexual-harassment-update-baldoni-dropped-by-wme.1067124/page-4#post-133373466

User banned(2 weeks): Victim blaming, drive-by trolling over multiple posts

EDIT: Ignore me, clearly i was wrong

Ok, i'm not here to defend Baldoni. What he did is horrendous. Blake does not deserve that at all.

There are lot of people defending Blake though even though others here say she is still shit?

As far as i know she is? Unless Baldoni had something to do with this interview with his smear campaign but somehow I doubt with how she acted.

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/brazilian-prison-uses-geese-to-prevent-jailbreaks.1065624/#post-133337196

User banned(1 Month): Casual Misogyny, Racism

Racism? How? 

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/what-did-you-get-for-christmas-2024-edition.1068849/page-4#post-133460178

Anyone else deal with disappointing gifts and not sure how to express this to family? I was very specific this year what I wanted and showed them exactly where to get them and when they were going on sale.

Kinda feels like I was purposely ignored and was given stuff more to "surprise" me, then get me what I wanted.

[nachobro]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/howd-you-get-that-scar.1067601/#post-133349106

User banned(2 weeks): Boy's club rhetoric

Eating pussy

Would he'd gotten a ban if he say "sucking cock" instead?

probably not but also it's a quote from scarface so the mods are extra rslurred on this one

[DocWager]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/howd-you-get-that-scar.1067601/#post-133349106

Would he'd gotten a ban if he say "sucking cock" instead?

probably not but also it's a quote from scarface so the mods are extra rslurred on this one

“Eating Pineapple”

[benji]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/what-did-you-get-for-christmas-2024-edition.1068849/page-4#post-133460178

Anyone else deal with disappointing gifts and not sure how to express this to family? I was very specific this year what I wanted and showed them exactly where to get them and when they were going on sale.

Kinda feels like I was purposely ignored and was given stuff more to "surprise" me, then get me what I wanted.

What an ungrateful family and after everything he did for them!

[benji]

Do they do Oppression Olympics for Christmas every year and we just didn't notice it before? Or is this a new tradition?

[benji]

This year everyone I know got donations to the Pan African-Gaza-TERF Island-Bluesky Liberation Fund in their name.

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/brazilian-prison-uses-geese-to-prevent-jailbreaks.1065624/#post-133337196

User banned(1 Month): Casual Misogyny, Racism

I'm surprised NepNep didn't give that user perm ban.  How do I know it's NepNep?  Brazil and she loathes yt ppl

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/trump-says-on-day-1-he-will-sign-executive-orders-banning-trans-people-from-the-military-schools-banning-gender-affirming-care.1067679/page-5#post-133394592

This is what happens when progressives expect democrats to fix the world completely in 4 years and then punish them by not voting if everything hasn't been perfect, and watching republicans and the far right tear down every stone of built.


One day people will find out that it's easier to turn people to hate, and teaching empathy and understanding takes time and patience.

Perfection is the enemy of progress.

Lil Bee

Respectfully, get fucked.

EDIT: So I don't just get banned for being combative with nothing else to add, it's not like the dems did shit to protect trans people in the last 4 years. It's not like Labour is doing shit to protect us over here in the UK, so why should I vote for them? On the hope that with no evidence to show that they give a shit, they're magically gonna do the thing? Seriously, fuck off with that shit. If Trump can sign a bunch of executive orders trying to ban us from existence on day 1, a dem president can sign executive orders to do the inverse, but they won't, will they? You can't fight landslides with incrementalism, and you can't, AND SHOULDN'T turn your ire towards those who refuse to vote for lesser evils. Turn your ire towards those with no ideals with which to be idealistic about, turn your ire towards the evils.

GAF and it's spin off forums are like the only forums where users fear of getting a ban 

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/finally-fell-for-a-text-scam.1069212/

Feel pretty dumb, but thought I'd make a thread to warn others.

In early December, I ordered something online and it still hadn't arrived after two weeks. I was worried it wouldn't since I hadn't put in the full zip code. And then soon after that, I get a text claiming to be from USPS and saying that the package was being held because of an incomplete zip code. And since it was a gift and I wanted it to get here in time, I rushed to the link they gave, updated the info, and gave my card info for a "service charge".

A week later, the package got here so I assumed it was all legit. But then on Christmas Eve, I get a message warning about possible fraud from a $100 purchase at Target. I hadn't ordered anything from there, so immediately knew something was up. And after going through my texts, I noticed one from back in October from a different number trying the same scam.

Going to the bank tomorrow to get things figured out. Card is frozen for now and the purchase didn't go through, so there's that at least.

I've always been good at seeing stuff like this, but man that was terrible timing. Reminder to always be on the lookout for these scams.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/better-not-click-if-youre-enjoying-a-happy-christmas-did-you-ever-find-out-your-parents-no-longer-love-you-and-how-did-you-react-cope-with-it.1069110/page-2#post-133462434

I get it OP. Presents can definitely be weaponized. I'll go out on a limb and say 20% of gym membership and exercise equipment is gifted in malice.

[Taco Bell Tower]

Gifted for malice, gifted for malice

[benji]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/trump-says-on-day-1-he-will-sign-executive-orders-banning-trans-people-from-the-military-schools-banning-gender-affirming-care.1067679/page-5#post-133394592

If Trump can sign a bunch of executive orders trying to ban us from existence on day 1, a dem president can sign executive orders to do the inverse, but they won't, will they?

How are they going to do that if nobody votes for them to get elected?

You can't fight landslides with incrementalism

This is in fact the only way you can do it.

[benji]

At this point I wonder if it's just that they don't understand simple math. A political party has no incentive to abandon 97% of voters for 3% of them. It really doesn't matter if those 3% are correct.

[Ribosome]

Yet the outgoing Democratic administration actually did make moves favoring trans individuals in the military.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/sony-kadokawa-and-sony-agree-to-form-strategic-capital-and-business-alliance-upped-their-existing-stake-to-10-for-318m-now-largest-shareholder.1065093/page-4#post-133211772

User banned (1 week): Inflammatory commentary over multiple posts

what's wrong with them being led by a white guy? are you implying that Asobi studio survived on that basis alone?

No, but it doesn't seem that Sony wants non-Western leadership in their teams. All their studios besides Polyphony are led by white Western man, even the studio that is otherwise all-Japanese.

I think Asobi surviving has more to do with Astro bot's success than the race of its studio head but ok 👍

Sure, Astro Bot's success is some months old. Let's see what happens in the next years.

Sony closed how many studios in the past 5 years? Past 10 years? 5-10? Sometimes because a single game didn't sell well enough.

How many developers had to leave their most successful studios in the past years? Including mega successful studios like Naughty Dog and Insomniac? Hundreds?

I'm glad you trust your favorite company but I'm glad we don't have even more consolidations.

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/what-did-you-get-for-christmas-2024-edition.1068849/page-4#post-133460178

Anyone else deal with disappointing gifts and not sure how to express this to family? I was very specific this year what I wanted and showed them exactly where to get them and when they were going on sale.

Kinda feels like I was purposely ignored and was given stuff more to "surprise" me, then get me what I wanted.

How old is this cunt? 12?

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/sony-kadokawa-and-sony-agree-to-form-strategic-capital-and-business-alliance-upped-their-existing-stake-to-10-for-318m-now-largest-shareholder.1065093/page-4#post-133211772

User banned (1 week): Inflammatory commentary over multiple posts

what's wrong with them being led by a white guy? are you implying that Asobi studio survived on that basis alone?

No, but it doesn't seem that Sony wants non-Western leadership in their teams. All their studios besides Polyphony are led by white Western man, even the studio that is otherwise all-Japanese.

I think Asobi surviving has more to do with Astro bot's success than the race of its studio head but ok 👍

Sure, Astro Bot's success is some months old. Let's see what happens in the next years.

Sony closed how many studios in the past 5 years? Past 10 years? 5-10? Sometimes because a single game didn't sell well enough.

How many developers had to leave their most successful studios in the past years? Including mega successful studios like Naughty Dog and Insomniac? Hundreds?

I'm glad you trust your favorite company but I'm glad we don't have even more consolidations.

NepNep isn't picking the game up.

[Uncle]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/better-not-click-if-youre-enjoying-a-happy-christmas-did-you-ever-find-out-your-parents-no-longer-love-you-and-how-did-you-react-cope-with-it.1069110/#post-133450683

I've been a shutin for many years now, without irl friends, unemployed due to health reasons (both physical and mental), and the relationship with me and my parents has only been getting worse, since they always had a "money is everything" mindset, whereas I, even before I got into my situation, never cared about money at all. Not because I was rich, but because I never liked the idea of letting money dictate my happiness. So since I've been unemployed for most my life, nothing I ever did was of value to my parents. "Does it make money?" - "No" - "Kthxbye". Like that.

I don't believe this for one second

his parents don't care about money, they care about him contributing to society and taking a little personal responsibility for once

here is how the conversations actually go:

"hi mom and dad, I've started DMing down at the game store"

"oh? is that like a part time job or something?"

"what, no, it's just for fun with my friends"

"steven we've talked about this, you can't just spend your who life having fun, you really need to get an actual job and start supporting yourself in a meaningful way rather than just being a leech on society"

"WHATEVER MOM GOSH I HAVE EMOTIONAL ANXIETY IN A HIGH STRESS WORK ENVIRONMENT, YOU KNOW THIS"

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/better-not-click-if-youre-enjoying-a-happy-christmas-did-you-ever-find-out-your-parents-no-longer-love-you-and-how-did-you-react-cope-with-it.1069110/page-2#post-133466013

OP's perception is influenced by a relationship that was already less than healthy. That can make innocuous situations turn into social disasters. Sometimes you just have to take a step back.

Yes, thx.
As I said in the OP, I don't want to tell the entire story for various reasons, but ofc this holidays is not where it began. I'm almost 40 and the relationship with my parents began to worsen ever since I was circa 15/16, basically when I started to have interests of my own that my father didn't share and to this day actively shits on (videogames, anime, "Hollywood movies" (yes, he actively hates American-made movies. Couple years ago we had Batman Begins running on TV for 2 minutes, when he started shouting at the TV "FUCK AMERICANS!!1". Completely unhinged, sigh)). He's a living "no fun allowed zone"-meme, accept that that's not funny when it comes in the form of an abusive choleric who somehow successfully manipulated the entire family into always taking his side. "Because he worked hard his whole life". How I hate that sentence that is nothing but a bad excuse. My mom was more supportive for most my life, but she's always been afraid of my father where she wouldn't dare to speak out against him, so that support was limited and I didn't want her to do it, because I knew keeping the "happy family"-facade was important for her, toxic as it may be.

Then half a lifetime of this continued and here we are at this year's Christmas eve, which I was looking forward to, because I got to give presents to my 3 little nieces. Which I did and was nice. Got the two older ones a bunch of quality dinosaur-figures to infect them with the dinosaur virus, lol. And the 6 month old got a giant Penpen-plushie, because my insane brother managed to convince his wife to give her the second name "Lilith". And yes, he's an Evangelion-fan, lol, but it's totally because it's a traditional, religious name, lol.

So in all that, I realize that christmas is not about me. I'm not sad that I didn't get some specific present. The only reason I still write a yearly wishlist is because my mom asks for it and is sad if her three sons don't. But then things happened. Suddenly, after a lifetime of Christmas being an important tradition, it wasn't. And then even within that, it was worse than I expected, but I won't write all the details, because it's somehing that sounds so mundane, but hits different when you experience it yourself. The mixer yesterday was just some additional "ugh", it wasn't the big bad thing in itself. But then before going to bed I wrote my mom a message "I love you. And dad, too", because I felt bad again. And now I encourage them to continue. I just can't break free and due to my health situation, it's difficult to move away which I have planned, but then planned home therapy fell through because of organizational reasons beyond my control, now I'm on a waiting list.

That's more than I intended to tell, honestly. And again, I know a lot of people have it way worse. I'm semi-regularily posting in the Gaza-thread, because it keeps frustrating and shocking me what's happening there. The frustrating thing about my life is that it's bad enough to make me cry and give me ... really bad thoughts, yet it's seemingly good enough to the outside to remove me the right to complain. I feel so incredibly trapped where I can't talk to anyone. I don't expect a lot of goodwill here either, just needed a moment to vent my feelings. It's okay if this thread slowly vanishes from page 1 and then further.

[Uncle]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/what-did-you-get-for-christmas-2024-edition.1068849/page-4#post-133460178

Anyone else deal with disappointing gifts and not sure how to express this to family? I was very specific this year what I wanted and showed them exactly where to get them and when they were going on sale.

Kinda feels like I was purposely ignored and was given stuff more to "surprise" me, then get me what I wanted.

How old is this cunt? 12?

jesus these people

I got very little for christmas and I don't give a fuck, I had an amazing time giving fun gifts to everyone, not bragging at all since they weren't amazing or extravagant or anything, but they were fun and we all had fun

had a few lucky guesses I was happy with, where they opened it and said oh man I was looking at this on amazon a few months ago but didn't want to spend money on a silly thing, well there you go 

the kids got me some trinkets from an "everything under $10" store, like a Gandalf rubber duck because we watched Lord of the Rings a while back, I'm not gonna be an era user like "boo hoo I wanted an iphone and you tykes insult me with this"

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/better-not-click-if-youre-enjoying-a-happy-christmas-did-you-ever-find-out-your-parents-no-longer-love-you-and-how-did-you-react-cope-with-it.1069110/#post-133450683

I've been a shutin for many years now, without irl friends, unemployed due to health reasons (both physical and mental), and the relationship with me and my parents has only been getting worse, since they always had a "money is everything" mindset, whereas I, even before I got into my situation, never cared about money at all. Not because I was rich, but because I never liked the idea of letting money dictate my happiness. So since I've been unemployed for most my life, nothing I ever did was of value to my parents. "Does it make money?" - "No" - "Kthxbye". Like that.

I don't believe this for one second

his parents don't care about money, they care about him contributing to society and taking a little personal responsibility for once

here is how the conversations actually go:

"hi mom and dad, I've started DMing down at the game store"

"oh? is that like a part time job or something?"

"what, no, it's just for fun with my friends"

"steven we've talked about this, you can't just spend your who life having fun, you really need to get an actual job and start supporting yourself in a meaningful way rather than just being a leech on society"

"WHATEVER MOM GOSH I HAVE EMOTIONAL ANXIETY IN A HIGH STRESS WORK ENVIRONMENT, YOU KNOW THIS"

"Steven, I've told you, stacking shelves at the grocery store is not a high stress work environment. Do you know how long it took me to get you that job?"

"Whatever mum, you don't know how much stress I'm under what with the whole Gaza situation and now another trans ally state, Syria, has fallen. It's just horrible."

"Steven, you're German. What's Gaza and Syria got to do with stress in your life?"

"Urgh, fuck off coloniser. I'm cutting you off. I just can't have this negativity in my life."

"Steven, we're paying your rent. You can't cut us off."

"Urgh, I love in a fucking prison. Can you just cook my tendies and FUCK. OFF."

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/what-did-you-get-for-christmas-2024-edition.1068849/page-4#post-133460178

How old is this cunt? 12?

jesus these people

I got very little for christmas and I don't give a fuck, I had an amazing time giving fun gifts to everyone, not bragging at all since they weren't amazing or extravagant or anything, but they were fun and we all had fun

had a few lucky guesses I was happy with, where they opened it and said oh man I was looking at this on amazon a few months ago but didn't want to spend money on a silly thing, well there you go 

the kids got me some trinkets from an "everything under $10" store, like a Gandalf rubber duck because we watched Lord of the Rings a while back, I'm not gonna be an era user like "boo hoo I wanted an iphone and you tykes insult me with this"

Like, as an adult who has a job, who gives a fuck about presents? Just buy your own shit. Presents should just be nice little things people buy you to say thanks for being a friend/family.

[nampad]

Those people are such whiny bastards. And of course it sounds like FantasticToma lives with his parents but can’t move out because of the health situation. Sounds like they do take care of him somehow because I would not know why else it would be stopping him with the rather good welfare system in Germany (which has to pull lazy asses like him through life).

[nampad]

How old is this cunt? 12?

jesus these people

I got very little for christmas and I don't give a fuck, I had an amazing time giving fun gifts to everyone, not bragging at all since they weren't amazing or extravagant or anything, but they were fun and we all had fun

had a few lucky guesses I was happy with, where they opened it and said oh man I was looking at this on amazon a few months ago but didn't want to spend money on a silly thing, well there you go 

the kids got me some trinkets from an "everything under $10" store, like a Gandalf rubber duck because we watched Lord of the Rings a while back, I'm not gonna be an era user like "boo hoo I wanted an iphone and you tykes insult me with this"

Like, as an adult who has a job, who gives a fuck about presents? Just buy your own shit. Presents should just be nice little things people buy you to say thanks for being a friend/family.

Bolded the important part for you 😉

[Besticus Maximus]

Well I had a lovely Xmas and I hope you all did too. Even nepenthe and kyuuji 

[Besticus Maximus]

Rare double post