Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 1)

[Daffy Duck]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/

I have never in my life had an issue with anyone I have ever worked with but this guy at my job is really starting to bug me.

I'm pretty friendly with everyone. When I first started to work here, I introduced myself and everything. I overheard him talking about a movie that I wanted to see (The Substance).

I joined the conversation and said that I was looking forward to seeing it. I tried to get him to talk about it more but he wasn't very receptive so whatever.

So over the weekend I believe, I saw the movie. At work I told him I saw the movie and loved it, but I told him I thought the end was weird. And he was like, "That's because you're a man!"

Dafuq. Last time I checked, he was a man as well.

Then today, I made my lunch….the SAME lunch I've been making since I started working here in January. I just warmed it up in the microwave.

He came up to my door and said, "Your food smells like trash. Can I close your door?"

Omg 🤣 Are you fucking serious

For the record, it's literally chicken breast from a slow cooker with some seasoning.

I've tried to be friendly with him but for whatever reason, he has been cold to me during most of our interactions. I say good morning to him and everyone every morning, and his response is always a cold "good morning" with the flattest tone ever. He always asks everyone else what their weekend plans are, or what they're doing later in the evening, but never me.

As it turns out, we're both gay (I over heard him talking to another coworker), but he doesn't know I am (we were talking about something and he asked if I had a girlfriend and I say no). I thought we had some commonality there but I guess not.

He doesn't have to be my friend or whatever but I've always been on friendly terms with my coworkers. At my last job, we all went to the beach. I definitely don't see that here.

*shrugs*

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/#post-138052284

OP, don't retaliate. Don't say anything back. Nod and smile, and go about your day…

…and then quietly open a .word document and log every hostile interaction immediately after it happens. Include the time, the day, where it happened, what was said, and who witnessed it (if anyone).

Let the number of infractions get to 5 or so, then put them in an email with the subject line "History of hostile workplace interactions with X" and send it to your supervisor with an HR supervisor CC'd.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/#post-138052761

Ironically, he is always complaining about "toxic work environments" and how people are rude. Like seriously. 🙄

I've only had to report a coworker once (she literally came into my office cursing at me).

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/#post-138055857

The only thing even remotely reportable here is the "food smells like trash" comment. HR would laugh you out of the room if you complained a coworker didn't say hello in a jovial enough tone.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/page-2#post-138068046

I honestly feel targeted. He has been this way with me since day one. And he is soooooo nice to everyone else.

I tried to smooth things over with our last conversation (when he asked me if I had a girlfriend; we were talking about a variety of topics and that came up). But today? Fuck it. I'm done. I have been nothing but nice to him. I don't deserve his attitude.

If he does that food shit next week, there WILL be a problem. Thinking about it on the drive home just pissed me off even more.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/page-2#post-138073380

OP you've always got a problem with people lol.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/this-guy-at-my-job-is-getting-on-my-nerves.1155558/page-3#post-138090639

Lmao. Situations like these remind me of elementary school. A girl was really into me and always pushed me and got me into trouble and was very mean to me. I told my parents and the teacher and turns out she liked me.

But this guy? Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. But we're adults now. I'm taking his actions at face value. I'm not saying good morning to him anymore. I'm not acknowledging him outside of work-related matters.

I heard him gossiping with another coworker about how he thinks it's disrespectful to not say good morning when you see someone. And that's true and I feel the same way.

If he didn't like me before, he's in for a treat.

That seems like a whole lot of assuming gender going on here….also how are you checking he’s a man? A bit of cock and bum fun in the toilet? Or sneaking a look at his trouser snake whilst taking a piss?