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(4 hours ago)BIONIC wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/it-boggles-my-mind-how-much-people-seem-to-at-least-in-private-hate-on-their-significant-other-does-anyone-else-actually-love-their-partner.1167597/page-3#post-138806673
Messofanego, post: 138806673, member: 1159 wrote:There is a whole history in hating on your SO in media, cause I imagine that had an influence in this spilling over into real life behaviour. Like there were American sitcoms from the start of TV, from the 40s and 50s of hating your partner. "Why I oughtta"... Sitcoms never stopped portraying wives as nagging and husbands as manchildren. It probably was ripped from reality and exaggerated it for comedic effect. A happy couple in media is unusual. So people thought marriage is like TV. And then they unconsciously repeat those same tropes in real life with their own spouses in front of friends or coworkers. Maybe because they're too scared to confront or resolve issues with their spouse so they vent out to others. It's been normalised for decades. Venting is very helpful, but villainising your spouse to others will get more black-and-white than nuanced responses.
When I got married, I got these responses from just a few people. These were likely people in unhappy relationships generalising. Then when children came along, they would do the doom-and-gloom routine again. We just surrounded ourselves with people who actually like being married or like having children.
He knows his wife is happy and respects him...because he told her so.