Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 1)

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https://www.resetera.com/threads/2023-is-nearly-half-done-how-are-you-feeling-about-it.731508/#post-107477229

Fiancée broke up with me after we had just picked out a house and she'd gotten approved for the mortgage and we were about to start planning our marriage and filing for a spousal visa for me to move to the UK with her so I'd say it's been pretty fucking shittacular.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-hate-catastrophizers.758320/#post-111139669

I have BPD and a ton of trauma and do exactly this. There's no amount of rationalizing in the world that can stop it or calm it down. When a situation feels out of my control, the only thing left to do is spiral until it sorts itself out in some way. Have so little trust in the world or the way events play out that even the slightest inconvenience feels like my world is ending. I'm sorry that it's frustrating to you and many others, I truly am, but believe me, it sucks to be on this end of things as well. Life feels miserable like this.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/are-any-of-your-friends-conservative.938442/page-3#post-126386454

Never. I'm a hardline anarcho-communist and a trans woman. I would find it hard to be friends or even friendly with people who don't believe I should exist, hate poor people, believe in nationalism/patriotism and think capitalism is the best way of possibly doing things. I'm further left than even the most liberal of parties in my country and it's hard to be friends with people who think the current system works best.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/non-us-era-what-are-your-greatest-concerns-right-now-of-how-it-will-impact-your-country.1029096/#post-131292558

Living in Canada as a disabled transgender woman, I am terrified that the already on track to win extreme right wing movement will be emboldened and strengthened. The cost of living for people living on benefits as I am is already way too high, and a conservative victory in the upcoming election will possibly take those away from me, as well as my health care and hrt. I cannot work, and people like me in both a trans sense and a disabled person sense will be demonized by the government and the general public far far more than we already are, as Canadian culture always mirrors the USA. Trumpism is already running wild here. Look at Alberta. Not to mention how terrified I am for my transgender friends in the states. I feel utterly sick and hopeless.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/canada%E2%80%99s-ndp-to-vote-%E2%80%9Cno-confidence%E2%80%9D-in-trudeau%E2%80%99s-liberal-party-government-likely-setting-up-an-early-2025-election.1066527/#post-133276728

As a disabled transgender woman living in rural Newfoundland who depends on the government for a pittance of an income, this truly is the fucking scariest timeline. PP terrifies me. Everything about the global rise of fascism and conservatism terrifies me. There's nothing I can do. There's nothing any of us can do to stop us from going back 50+ years socially, and people are frothing at the mouth.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/have-you-ever-made-someone-in-your-life-feel-neglected-because-of-your-gaming-habits-how-do-they-react-to-overly-long-play-sessions.1074069/#post-133943187

My gf plays just as many games as I do. Sometimes we play together, sometimes one of us watches the other, and sometimes we play alone. We are in a long distance relationship so I've only ever felt like the shared hobby has brought us closer. The one time I've been able to make the trip across the ocean to see her, we played through all of Sackboy together and it was a magical experience.

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https://www.resetera.com/threads/poverty-check.1106412/#post-135656589

Yeah, there are certain kinds of threads I have to avoid here for my own mental health. I am a disabled trans woman living with her parents in her mid thirties who will never be able to work for an income ever again. I rely on a pittance, and a large chunk of that money goes toward gaming because I have the privilege of being fed and housed by my parents. Some of the things I see here wouldn't be attainable in my wildest dreams.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/ever-date-someone-that-looks-like-your-ex.1116165/#post-136135788

Not visibly, no, but they are both tall British women so I think I have a type regardless

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-was-diagnosed-with-bpd-when-i-was-21-and-i-do-not-wish-this-illness-on-anyone.1137459/#post-137176371

I've suffered with borderline my whole life. That emptiness still eats me alive every day. I fight so hard. I'm so self aware. And yet, every relationship and friendship I've ever had have fallen apart in front of my eyes and I can't understand why. I don't have the type of BPD that makes me lash out, or get angry. I have massive mood swings but they go from euphoria to soul crushing sadness. I feel like I have a void in me that cannot be fixed or filled, no matter what I do. Life just feels pointless. So I live for my partner. Which I know to most people would be "unhealthy" and that I'm doing it wrong. But it's the only thing I've found in this world that helps numb that pain.

Edit: Seeing a lot of people come in here talking about exes with borderline. Please don't turn this thread into a reddit "BPD loved ones" space. I know it's a difficult mental illness to understand but I'm begging people to be patient with people like me. It's so common to see us stigmatized and turned into monsters. It hurts.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/a-study-investigates-how-long-it-takes-to-get-over-an-ex-partner-on-average-it-took-about-4-18-years-for-the-emotional-attachment-to-dissolve-halfway.1135419/#post-137067888

It'll be 2 years since my ex left me and some days I still hurt like it was yesterday. I'd definitely skew this higher.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/uk-political-era-2024-ot1-starmergeddon.928968/page-158#post-138599871

I am so angry, so confused, so sad, so terrified. I'm not currently in the uk, but my partner lives there, and my heart is breaking that I can't do anything but watch while the government keeps removing her rights and protections. We just want to live and exist.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/%E2%80%9Cnever-go-to-bed-angry%E2%80%9D-is-probably-the-worst-commonly-given-relationship-advice-i-have-ever-heard.1174068/page-2#post-139088637

I disagree, but only because I know that doesn't work for me on a personal level. I can go from 0-10 in an instant. I spiral out of control whenever something is off or wrong in the relationship. I'm the kind of person who absolutely needs to talk things out *as* they come up, otherwise the trauma of my past and the experiences I've had will all compound on top of the current problem and I fall apart. Going to bed "angry" means I get no sleep, I just cry and toss and turn and wonder why my partner won't talk to me about it.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/uk-ehrc-publishes-interim-guidance-effectively-recommending-a-ban-for-trans-folk-from-any-gender-bathrooms-plus-other-fuckery.1174317/#post-139092147

My heart continues to break for my partner who has to deal with this every single day. That the island I will someday call home with her is so openly hostile to the both of us, just because of who we are, along with so many of our friends and family, and the trans community as a whole. They are on the wrong side of history, but this onslaught is just so overwhelming.

These m2f people of gender always have these impossible long distance relationships that ALWAYS seem to break down just before they decide to take the big step of living together. 

My theory is that the reality of suddenly having to suck she-cock kicks in and they realise that they don't actually like cock and that the "woman" they're about to move in with is not actually a woman in their estimation and they have to abandon ship before they have to admit they also might not be a woman.