Also if you're online focused/incel/shut-in/etc. and you "come out" and immediately get "love bombed" and everyone treats you better that's going to feel very "euphoric" because you've just dramatically improved your ingroup status. Look at posters who suddenly come out on ResetERA.com, they probably get invited to Discords, they get to throw around their status and post wildly on the forum with no consequences. They never had that before.
But because these groups are so insular and demanding it cuts you off from all other social groups. If you're already in that grouping I mentioned this just inclines you more to remove yourself from the real world because that will comparatively be nothing but problems simply because it's not deliberately dishonest.
Many of these people are people who see others as morally wrong for being different. Being gay is wrong, I'd never be gay. Being mentally ill is wrong, I'd never truly be that, it's just a little problem I can fix. So me need to change? To work on myself? To become accepting of myself? No, I just need to make a superficial change and everyone else will automatically treat me as I deserve to be treated which is as a perfect godking.
This just exacerbates the anxiety, depression, etc. because it's running away from the only well known things that work. Meanwhile the people who treat them "right" just tell them to take more drugs, make more superficial changes and eventually you'll be euphoric all the time like you should be. Even though they're all miserable too. And since this will only ever fail the problem must be capitalism or society. We need violence to just destroy the entire system and force everyone to treat me as I should be treated.
They don't see the ratchet, the cycle, etc. because they never question the premise that the problem isn't them. I'm trying to argue that much of this "identity" crap is faking that the problem is you, because you're really trying to control other people's responses about you not actually changing yourself. But it's changing irrelevant things about you and thinking this should change how others respond, so it's based on this very ignorant view of other people. The social justice stuff plays into it by telling them that everyone else is racist, misogynistic, transphobic, etc. or controlled by sinister forces. It tells you that you don't need to question your own behavior because the problem is everyone else not being "rational" performers of basic human decency. It's a very narcissistic worldview that's completely naive and ignorant about everyone else and the rhetoric and arguments and everything else of the worldview encourage destroying actual social groups and actual communities in pursuit of an impossible reality where the focus of everyone else (never you) is on making you individually happy.
That's why it's exhausting and they're all always so tired, they've placed the locus of control entirely outside of themselves and are permanently frustrated at their lack of control over everything.
But because these groups are so insular and demanding it cuts you off from all other social groups. If you're already in that grouping I mentioned this just inclines you more to remove yourself from the real world because that will comparatively be nothing but problems simply because it's not deliberately dishonest.
Many of these people are people who see others as morally wrong for being different. Being gay is wrong, I'd never be gay. Being mentally ill is wrong, I'd never truly be that, it's just a little problem I can fix. So me need to change? To work on myself? To become accepting of myself? No, I just need to make a superficial change and everyone else will automatically treat me as I deserve to be treated which is as a perfect godking.
This just exacerbates the anxiety, depression, etc. because it's running away from the only well known things that work. Meanwhile the people who treat them "right" just tell them to take more drugs, make more superficial changes and eventually you'll be euphoric all the time like you should be. Even though they're all miserable too. And since this will only ever fail the problem must be capitalism or society. We need violence to just destroy the entire system and force everyone to treat me as I should be treated.
They don't see the ratchet, the cycle, etc. because they never question the premise that the problem isn't them. I'm trying to argue that much of this "identity" crap is faking that the problem is you, because you're really trying to control other people's responses about you not actually changing yourself. But it's changing irrelevant things about you and thinking this should change how others respond, so it's based on this very ignorant view of other people. The social justice stuff plays into it by telling them that everyone else is racist, misogynistic, transphobic, etc. or controlled by sinister forces. It tells you that you don't need to question your own behavior because the problem is everyone else not being "rational" performers of basic human decency. It's a very narcissistic worldview that's completely naive and ignorant about everyone else and the rhetoric and arguments and everything else of the worldview encourage destroying actual social groups and actual communities in pursuit of an impossible reality where the focus of everyone else (never you) is on making you individually happy.
That's why it's exhausting and they're all always so tired, they've placed the locus of control entirely outside of themselves and are permanently frustrated at their lack of control over everything.