Random Talk

[Potato]

I think we need to make TheBire's collective mission in 2025 to get nintex shacked up with a hottie.

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

I think we need to make TheBire's collective mission in 2025 to get nintex shacked up with a hottie.

No, he will become too powerful.

Or could it diminish his power? Hmm...

[BIONIC]

I think we need to make TheBire's collective mission in 2025 to get nintex shacked up with a hottie.

We’re not miracle workers.

[Potato]

I think we need to make TheBire's collective mission in 2025 to get nintex shacked up with a hottie.

We’re not miracle workers.

Love is love. 

#getnintexlaid

[Cauliflower Of Love]

which one is nintex again?

[Nintex]

A day later and I honestly feel better about the whole situation than I would've expected. Overall Chronovore was right that I was overthinking too much and read into her signals too much but at the same time I missed some other things. I told the guy that brought her aboard(basically her boss) that I asked her out. He complimented me on my good taste, owning it like a real man and appreciated that I let him know. If anything it has only increased the trust between us.

But he also said some things that made me aware that I didn't realize what a great business opportunity this is for her in general. For me it's just one of our many ventures that I've tried over the years and he's had many succesful businesses but she's moving up from contracting and marketing gigs to actually working with a team and owning part of a shared business. I'm more or less the visionary behind this whole AI thing we're setting up, so he said she tried to make a good impression on me (which worked a bit too well  ) and she genuinely thinks I'm a good stand up guy and she enjoys working with me. He also said that although he isn't clear on the details she's still in some kind of broken relationship/situationship right now. He also said that on his part he tried to convince her of my expertise and leading role in this business venture as opposed to convincing her to date me (although he does think the older women tried to hook us up but just because we were hanging out together at the party).

I don't realize I'm a 'boss' more often actually so that tracks. We once had someone working for us that was on some kind of government benefit program and she had to register her schedule in advance to get her benefits. So when I jokingly said on Monday at 9AM: "Well guys, that's it for this week enjoy the weekend!" and everyone clapped and cheered she started crying because she would be in big trouble if they found out she wasn't working that day. Same with the intern that freaked out when he broke his chair and I shrugged and said: "You have a laptop, why don't you sit on the floor?"

I also realized that I should talk/present my current personal situation more if I want to find a girlfriend because as of late people are starting to say that (despite some health issues and parents with severe health/mental issues at this point) my lot in life in general is pretty good and I rarely talk about any of it because I usually don't talk about personal things. 

So today I reflected on it and despite having to take my mom to the psych ward the week before Christmas a day after getting rejected my life is still pretty good overall.

Spoiler: my pretty good life (click to show)(click to hide)

- I live in the center of a coastal town which is a well known tourist attraction that has won many awards and tons of international events, like NATO summits etc. have been organized here and this is where all the politicians/celebrities/athletes/football teams/F1 sports teams reside whenever they visit the Netherlands. I'm just 5 minutes out from the beach, restaurants, 4-star hotels, big fashion brand shops etc. . Tourists easily pay up to $2000 - $4000 a night just to stay here during Christmas. It is calm and secluded but also well connected and both Amsterdam and Rotterdam are just 40 minutes away.
- I'm basically my own boss, I never get up before 9AM
- My office is located in a historic building from the 16th century in the same street where Rembrandt once learned how to paint, the neighbourhood is basically an outdoor museum in the middle of the bustling City Center of Leiden. Everyone compliments my office, it's one of the classiest in the city.
- I have some amazing close friends and get along well with all my employees/co-workers, we have parties, go karting and are overall having a good time together
- Financially I'm doing very well. I'd like to do better still but I have a steady high income, company stock, other stonks and plenty of savings
- I don't mind sharing that with others, I will happily pay the bill for friends that are less well off if it means they can join in for dinner
- My boss has no kids and his own goal is to have a $1 million retirement fund, I'll probably own the majority of the company within 10 - 20 years
- In ways I'm intelligent, I learn things quickly and am able to write prompts for brain surgeons in an hour without any prep
- I've developed a ton of skills, project management, UX, design, front-end development, sales, marketing, presenting, prompting, copywriting etc.
- While I can be impulsive and push my views I have a calm and gentle character overall
- I am a good listener and willing to help others in need. I also have a good sense of humor
- I value freedom and liberty and don't force others to do anything
- I'm maybe a bit underweight still but that has improved and also quite tall and the biggest issues with my general appearance (skin/dental) have both been fixed
- I cook basically every day and mostly eat healthy food, plus I don't smoke and I don't drink anymore
- When it's cold and rainy outside I have more movies and games to enjoy than someone could possibly consume in their lifetime and my taste in movies is varied, I can enjoy Casablanca and Pulp Fiction as much as I enjoy Fast & Furious. Folks always invite me to the movies as good company
- Used to dress like a slob with poor fitting clothes, now I'm overdressed more than anything but people compliment me about my fashion and guys actually ask me what suits they should wear
- I achieved everything through my own hard work and not giving up so there is very little risk of losing anything because I control it all
- I sleep well because I have a clear conscience
- I'm a fluent English speaker and writer, it's like a second native language to me

Sharing this, some folks told me that I should put some of those perks in a dating profile with some of that Nintex sarcasm and dark humor that (some) people like and some red flags or cons to show I can be critical of myself too.

So I guess the best play is to not focus on just who I am or what I look like because at a glance I'd be another tall 30-something IT nerd with similar interests as the rest of them. But instead paint a picture of what my girlfriends life would be like if she were part of my life and how I would treat her in a relationship. And her life with me they argue would be pretty damn good and she'd probably want to put in some effort to trade in her current life to get the type of life I could offer. Overall they think that what is on offer is very appealing to the type of girl I'm interested in, in the late 20's - early 30's bracket, especially if they're a bit introverted and want to stay close to home most of the time, working a job they think is fun or fulfilling but not necessarily to help make ends meet.

Overall everyone around me has been very supportive even more so than I thought.

One friend also gave me a reality check. 
Nintex, you haven't been dating for a long time, in fact you've only ever fucked around in clubs when we were in our 20's and weren't willing to commit to a relationship because you religiously believed in Smash Bros. before hoes. To your credit you never lowered your standards. You ran into this girl that happens to be almost exactly your type by chance barely 4 weeks ago. She called you first, she took up your invitation despite knowing fuck all about you, she enjoyed your company at the Christmas party, she didn't ghost you, you misread the whole fucking thing but still she appreciated your efforts, she thought your attempt was sweet and she still wants to be friendly co-workers despite not yet feeling the same connection. Which to my big fucking surprise means, she didn't outright reject you but actually considered it. And finally you didn't hold it against her or freak out but you respected her decision and she actually told you that made her not just happy but very happy. If you had pulled this off at the first fucking attempt, it wouldn't have been fair for the rest of us. So whatever you do, don't text her "Merry Christmas and see you next year" on your last day in the office tommorow because if she changes her mind, I'm personally going to kill you.

[Potato]

Spoiler: But seriously (click to show)(click to hide)

Spoiler: nah, but seriously (click to show)(click to hide)

You're my borebro. Keep it real my distinguished gentleman

[Polident]

Skimmed it until I saw you aren’t into body fascism. Do better.

[Potato]

Only good relationship advice I can give you is make sure you're happy with who you are and find someone who is also happy with who they are. 

Personal anxieties are for your teenage and 20-someone years. Women are attracted to confidence and confidence is born of being happy with yourself.

[BIONIC]

A day later and I honestly feel better about the whole situation than I would've expected. Overall Chronovore was right that I was overthinking too much

Proceeds to write a fucking novel

[HardcoreRetro]

I'll condense that post for everyone else.

Nintex: " "

[killamajig]

WI got its first accumulation of snow today



A sunny 27F (thats about -3C for people that dont use Freedom Units of measure)

[DavidCroquet]

I want snow :(

[Nintex]

I'm workshopping dating profiles with Grok.
It rated my first attempt a 8/10. Why did I never consider to use my sense of humor and sales and marketing skills for this before.

I'm now trying to be subtle in explaining in the bio that I'm open to a woman with a bit more weight, if that originates from her build and not eating too many cakes.
This is pretty fun actually.

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

Still I can't believe it took me this long to find out my type. I've fancied slim and tall, a bit older, a bit younger, shorter and some even curvier but also gave the cold shoulder to some other girls and I could never figure out why. I never realized before it was the red/orange hair that sealed the deal for me. Friend of mine reminded me of a friend of his I liked 15 years ago with the same name as this one, I look up her picture and sure enough a redhead. Basically all the female characters I created from femshep to Cyberpunk 2077, redheads. Why do I like Arrival, is it the 'story', no it's Amy Adams, same reason I watched Sharp Objects. Why do I like Boardwalk Empire and Trainspotting? Kelly Macdonald. What is the scene I think about first when I think about Interstellar, the docking scene? The lift-off? No, the "Eureka" scene with Jessica Chastain. Why do I know their names so well? Figures.

Whenever I enjoy something entirely mid like The First Descendant, overrate something or even desperately attempt to like it like Perfect Dark Zero, there is always a redhead involved. And here I was again overthinking things for years, driving a red car, eating every and any type of strawberry/red colored food trying to figure out what connected the girls I was attracted to. Hell, the reason Nintendo is my favorite gaming company, is probably just based on the fact that they are red and that also explains why I have 50-something Switch games and just about 6 Wii U games when they briefly dropped the red color scheme entirely.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

which was the dude trying to move in on the girl with the bf?

[BIONIC]

I’m excited for the Nintex train wreck.

[HardcoreRetro]

That was MMaRsu.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

is he pregnant yet?

 are they pregnant yet?

[who is ted danson?]

I'm workshopping dating profiles with Grok.
It rated my first attempt a 8/10. Why did I never consider to use my sense of humor and sales and marketing skills for this before.

I'm now trying to be subtle in explaining in the bio that I'm open to a woman with a bit more weight, if that originates from her build and not eating too many cakes.
This is pretty fun actually.

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

Still I can't believe it took me this long to find out my type. I've fancied slim and tall, a bit older, a bit younger, shorter and some even curvier but also gave the cold shoulder to some other girls and I could never figure out why. I never realized before it was the red/orange hair that sealed the deal for me. Friend of mine reminded me of a friend of his I liked 15 years ago with the same name as this one, I look up her picture and sure enough a redhead. Basically all the female characters I created from femshep to Cyberpunk 2077, redheads. Why do I like Arrival, is it the 'story', no it's Amy Adams, same reason I watched Sharp Objects. Why do I like Boardwalk Empire and Trainspotting? Kelly Macdonald. What is the scene I think about first when I think about Interstellar, the docking scene? The lift-off? No, the "Eureka" scene with Jessica Chastain. Why do I know their names so well? Figures.

Whenever I enjoy something entirely mid like The First Descendant, overrate something or even desperately attempt to like it like Perfect Dark Zero, there is always a redhead involved. And here I was again overthinking things for years, driving a red car, eating every and any type of strawberry/red colored food trying to figure out what connected the girls I was attracted to. Hell, the reason Nintendo is my favorite gaming company, is probably just based on the fact that they are red and that also explains why I have 50-something Switch games and just about 6 Wii U games when they briefly dropped the red color scheme entirely.

And it explains MAGA 

[Nintex]

I’m excited for the Nintex train wreck.

Honestly that's what everyone expected. 

I thought she'd become more distant and cold towards me after she said she wasn't interested or maybe didn't want to work together anymore because I made it weird.
But that hasn't happened. Yesterday I had a conference call with all 4 of the sales team, we had a good 'great minds think alike' type of meeting and to my surprise it wasn't awkward at all. 
She was more upbeat and confident than she was during previous meetings. It must've been quite a boost to her self-esteem to have me simp the way I did.

No I'm not falling into the trap of reading into it too much twice. And while I'm a bit sad it didn't work out so far, I enjoyed being part of this IRL romcom script.

[killamajig]

For anyone missing snow, here's some vids I took in a wildlife refuge near my place a couple of years ago. I was experimenting with my new phone and how to upload stuff to youtube. I kept the more interesting ones.

A fox and I crossed paths in the snow


Walking through the snow to “Auld Lang Syne”


Bonus
Some deer right before they caught scent of me.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/MpX4m_T4WYY?feature=share


EDIT: This reminded me of my first fox encounter.... hearing one.
FYI, here's what a fox can sound like for people that don't know until they hear it one night while walking a trail in the evening and almost shit themselves. I didn't know if I should stand still and be quiet or make a bunch of noise or run like hell if it was a Sasquatch
Not my video

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

[Polident]

Don’t know if I’ll have the opportunity this/early next year, I really need to make an effort to ski and snowboard again. Every time I see snow, it reminds me how that was the life every winter.

[Potato]

I just want to go hunting now.

[Nintex]

Created a bumble and got a like within 30 minutes or so.

Not my type, solid 7 if it was. If this is what I'm pulling at random gacha now I'm not dissapointed at all.

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

Some of these profiles I got to rate hit the wall hard though, I almost feel bad for them and had to double check their age at times, 29 but looking closer to 40 - 45.

It sucked that people would think that I was 19 at 25 but now I can easily pass for mid-20's, early 30 at 35 which is awesome actually. 
What I need are better pictures, I have decent pictures overall but none actually show how tall I am (6"1/2 - 6"1). I guess the best way to show that would be to stand next to a fairly tall object. It's a shame the ferris wheel got put in storage for the winter, standing next to the 'you should be this tall to ride' sign and being twice the height would've been a fun way to illustrate that.

[killamajig]

Take a pic holding a ruler with your penis length on it. That way she knows what shes working with. Plus you don't have to see when you whip it out it for real.

[who is ted danson?]

A picture next to one of these would do the trick

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tube_man

[killamajig]

All the better if you can dance like one too

[Uncle]

Take a pic holding a ruler with your penis length on it. That way she knows what shes working with. Plus you don't have to see when you whip it out it for real.

do they sell slightly smaller than normal rulers for this express purpose

can you get a 10-inch ruler still segmented 12 times

[Cauliflower Of Love]

I don't need tendies or anything but damn it's been lonely lately.

[chronovore]

Created a bumble and got a like within 30 minutes or so.

Not my type, solid 7 if it was. If this is what I'm pulling at random gacha now I'm not dissapointed at all.

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

Some of these profiles I got to rate hit the wall hard though, I almost feel bad for them and had to double check their age at times, 29 but looking closer to 40 - 45.

It sucked that people would think that I was 19 at 25 but now I can easily pass for mid-20's, early 30 at 35 which is awesome actually. 
What I need are better pictures, I have decent pictures overall but none actually show how tall I am (6"1/2 - 6"1). I guess the best way to show that would be to stand next to a fairly tall object. It's a shame the ferris wheel got put in storage for the winter, standing next to the 'you should be this tall to ride' sign and being twice the height would've been a fun way to illustrate that.

Maybe consider going out with women who aren't your type, just to see how it goes, and have "risk free" practice? 

I met my wife when I was uninterested in starting a new relationship, was able to be completely myself, turned out being myself was the key to a good relationship.