Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 1)

[Echelon]

You're telling me whilst I spent my annual leave eating chevapi, drinking beer, fishing, playing pinball, and getting laid I missed out on a Jeff marvel or nep making an extremely weak sauce attempt at dunking on the bire? what am I doing with my life

You're telling me whilst I spent my annual leave eating chevapi, drinking beer, fishing, playing pinball, and getting laid I missed out on a Jeff marvel or nep making an extremely weak sauce attempt at dunking on the bire? what am I doing with my life

Proper cevapi or Woolies?

Now there's a word I didn't expect to find in this sample size of 20 people. Fuck I'm hungry now.

[remy]

You're telling me whilst I spent my annual leave eating chevapi, drinking beer, fishing, playing pinball, and getting laid I missed out on a Jeff marvel or nep making an extremely weak sauce attempt at dunking on the bire? what am I doing with my life

Proper cevapi or Woolies?

proper, tbh i don't buy meat (and especially woggy/ethnic food) from woolies cuz it's usually bland garbage. the flavour removed for the skippy palate

[imsotired]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

Jeff would never make a meds joke.

[nampad]

My money is on nepnep for the condescending bitch tone.

[Blueball]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

[Gameboy Nostalgia]

It doesn't matter who Blueball is.

What's important are their pronouns. 

[remy]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

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[clockwork5]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

What is it you’re trying to debate? That it is strange that we laugh at you? That we all (for the most part) actually like each other and that our sensibilities align in a way that we find enjoyment in poking fun at the hypocrisy and ineptitude that has been the driving force behind the palpable decline of resetera? Is it strange that we enjoy the irony that your forums most prominent members are the same ones who have driven away every relevant gaming industry personality? That gaming journalists won’t even mention the name Resetera, that every gaming community outside of your own views your community as a toxic cesspool of mental illness and the instigator of harassment campaigns across the industry? Is it strange that we often disagree with each other and are able to hash out our grievances without resorting to smashing the report button and crying in the Constructive Community Feedback thread, where you all are just ignored like children throwing a temper tantrum? 

Sure, maybe we are a bit strange. But that’s okay, we like each other and we like it here. 

And at least we can go five minutes without somebody posting a thread about how badly they want to fuck the cast of Pokémon.

[BananaBlast]

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

Okay then, I guess speculation about your identity can wait.

Now what exactly are you debating? I don't think this place is an echochamber in the slightest, and how is it even possible to say that in defense or Resetera? Resetera is the biggest de facto echochamber that I can think of. A big part of this site is criticizing the echochamber nature.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

What do you mean making up stuff about someone? Are you talking about speculation of your identity, plausible theories (and jokes) based upon pattern  recognition of actual Resetera users who would probably do what you're doing right now, or are you talking about how people discuss Resetera users on this website, which is all 100% based upon what these users have said themselves?

[Uncle]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

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[NekoFever]

Imagine posting in an echo chamber where you can’t have a debate.

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

Resetera is the biggest de facto echochamber that I can think of.

DISMISSING. CONCERNS.

[Nintex]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

Well you didn't respond to my question when I asked so let me try again.

What is it that you like about ResetEra and the community?

Because all the community seems to do is ban bait, fight, backstab, grift, cum on guitars/pokemon, threaten to kill themselves and run to the boss when things spiral out of control like the average Trump campaign aide. And just like orange man B-Dubs and NepNep respond by throwing the victim under the bus, blaming everyone else or throwing more fuel onto the fire.

What's your take on someone that claims they can't afford food or healthcare and are the victim of a genocide but buys a $500 handheld console and tells folks not to mourn their loved ones getting shot because they probably deserved it.

These are great people?

 

[Averon]

By "making stuff up" does Blueball means acknowledging simple pattern recognition and reacting to the very public posts ERA users make? Is the constant hypocrisy, ban baiting, poor moderation that even fellow ERA users complain about, and preferential treatment of certain cliques on ERA all made up by us chuds?

[Besticus Maximus]

You've got a big fat head, Jeff.

[garamonde]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/tim-cain-violence-as-the-default-in-aaa-rpgs.1072836/page-2#post-133746972



In times of conflict, Toma arrived with new content.

[JoeBoy101]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/tim-cain-violence-as-the-default-in-aaa-rpgs.1072836/page-2#post-133746972



In times of conflict, Toma arrived with new content.

I mean, has Toma played ME1? It’s a great game, but how exactly do you play it without violence?

[Nintex]

What do you think about posts like these Blueball?

"Hello, you have a minor disagreement with me but instead of explaning my point of view which is totally wrong I'll just say you are a liar (and I reported you to the mods so hopefully they ban you) and I'll put you on my ignore list and throw my mixer against the wall."

No wonder they call this guy FANTASTIC

[malfoyking]

Blueball is most definitely not Zeo lol. Zeo doesn't post like that. Notice how Blueball only seems to post in a certain tone. They also post like they mainline r/gamingcirclejerk lol. They are either Nep or some other era mod.

Just ignore them as they're not interested in having a proper convo about anything.

[remy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-was-the-other-guy-in-an-extramarital-affair-it-imploded-and-it-broke-me.1073148/

Disclaimer: I am not fishing for sympathy, I'm not delusional so I know I was fully in the wrong and I'm not the victim here, I guess I just need to do this to process it and sort myself out.


TW: Cheating


I fully expect people who have been cheated on and people who came from a strained/divorced parents to give me a hard time here and I fully understand why.


The woman(28) and I(30) knew each other since we were in middle school, we had a short fling in high school, and we lost contact since then albeit we were still following each other on socials, and she got married 7 years ago and had two kids since then, the elder passed away when she was a few months old, and the younger is now 4. We met each other again at a wedding, where we both learned our families were related through marriage, and had my mother agreed to let a relative adopt me when I was born, we would have been raised as cousin-in-laws. The wedding was of a cousin of mine who was the elder of two sisters. We spoke for a bit at this revelation and never talked to each other again.


Years later, this past October, the younger of the two sisters got married and we saw each other again. She enthusiastically grabbed on to me when I called out to her and we both found somewhere more private for a chat. Things were still friendly at that point, I asked her how she was, whether she was happy, and she said everything was good and she still goes out to the club and hangs out with friends as a mom, so we made tentative plans to hang out together. She also introduced me to her husband(36) and her younger daughter at the wedding.


Weeks later, we met up to hang out, and we just talked for a while. I offered to take her home and she let me in to her family's apartment, and we continued talking until the topic started getting to our past fling. I admit, looking back, I was expecting something to happen, as we both know she had a history of being kind of promiscuous when we were younger, and I felt like she was testing the waters too. Then she kissed me out of nowhere and things happened, but we stopped short of intercourse as she was on her period. We then made immediate plans to go to a hotel the next week.


In the week between, what I was expecting to be a casual affair turned heavily serious and romantic, as she behaved fully as a person in love and she admitted she had unresolved feelings for me in our past fling, which could have led to the intensity of her feelings this time. She was practically lovebombing me, and the way I was treated and cared for by her made me truly fell for her too.


For the first month, things were intense and passionate, and we even talked about our future together. Since the beginning, she made it clear that she has been unhappy with her marriage for a long time, and it was loveless to begin with, and how her husband--while still supporting her financially--feels nonexistent as a partner, doesn't treat her as a priority, is cold yet controlling(down to her appearance and how she presents herself), and just never gives her the romance she wants even when they were still dating, and she had times when she wanted to take her daughter and leave before she met me again, and she's had a handful of one night stands/casual affairs before me, but this time it was different, she said. Her previous partners, even before marriage, were either pretty accomplished or very privileged people, with looks to match, and I was just an average guy with considerably lower socioeconomic status, especially compared to her husband, but she insisted she wanted me because of how loved she felt with me and how I made her happy, and she wanted us to build a future together. I'm not dumb, I know there was a strong chance she was letting her feelings drive her words, but she was consistent about it and her actions were in line with her words. For my part, I took her seriously and fully intended to work it out. Her only condition was that she wanted to be able to financially support herself and her daughter if she were to leave her husband, so it would only happen after either she or I could support all three of us. She said bringing her daughter was vital for her, as she is her top priority, and she asked me if I could accept that and I'd always told her yes.


In the second month, things got considerably harder because of her work. She works for her in-laws in several offices, and as the end of year was looming, her workload was immense. So we had less time to meet up in secret. Our relationship deteriorated during this, but every single time either of us were wavering, we made it clear we still wanted the same thing and we worked things out again, even during the worst of it. Later on, as Christmas break was nearing, even after she had more time, for some reason her husband were being unusually clingy and possessive of her. She started wondering if he was suspicious of us, and he were very uncharacteristically nice to her and took her to fancy dinners. It turns out that he found out about us by cloning her WhatsApp and he'd been reading our conversations for at least a couple of weeks before New Year's.


So yesterday, he confronted her with it, and she came clean to him. They both asked me to meet them at their place to end things. Her husband was relatively calm about it, though from his expression I could feel the barely suppressed rage and disappointment as all of us knew it wasn't the first time she's done this. He gave her a choice between staying with her family and still being provided for, but being unloved by him, or to pack her stuff and leave with me, being cut off from everything including her daughter. She obviously chose the former. Throughout all this, she was fully in denial to both of us, she acted as if it was never serious, even despite the overwhelming evidence we all knew her husband had. It greatly disappointed me, but I understood why she had to do that--to not lose her family and her daughter.


Things ended there, basically, but her husband later contacted me with vague threats that he's planning a surprise for me to get even, which does make me concerned though nothing's happened yet. She fully shut me out, still denying it was anything serious, and we've since only spoken coldly about sorting some belongings out. She's very likely still being closely monitored by her husband, as he made it clear he wants us to fully put a stop to it, and stop being friends altogether, so I really do understand her behavior even if it hurts me deeply.


Now I know things are much harder for the both of them; He'll never really be able to trust her again, and she'll never get out of her loveless marriage while being even more restricted than before. Her daughter almost got separated from her mother. I am not the victim in this. Yet I do still feel really heartbroken and guilty about my part in all this. I know the best thing for me to do is to just leave them alone, but it eats at my conscience and heart knowing that what we did made everything worse for her, and she might never recover from this. We will very likely not speak to each other ever again, but my heart really weeps for her situation now.


I feel so lost. I've done something so terrible and ended up hurting someone I truly care about. I don't know how to help myself get through this, or feel okay with myself again. I just feel so devastated, defeated, and empty now.

A bit of an update. Against my better judgment(and the advice of many here), I reached out to her through a way we're fairly certain is safe, because I'm really concerned about her well-being. She seems so tired and lost in her reply, she said she doesn't know how to be in their home right now, how she has to act or what she has to do. She's still in denial about our relationship, and I told her I think it's better for her to own up to herself that it was serious and meant something, and she had knowingly risked what she had because she really wanted the better outcome she dreamed of, and not just because she was playing around. I think that shook her off a bit.

More update. She ended up calling me after our previous exchange. She says she's not in the right headspace and not thinking straight. Says she's sorry things had to go this way, but she realizes she loves her husband and he's what he wants, not just the life he could give her. I know I'm very biased, of course, but to me she still sounds like she's trying to tell herself that to maintain a grip on her own situation.

She told me that things still seem normal on the surface, they still talk, they still go out as a family, but he's shut her off whenever they're not together. Not telling where he is, not being allowed to ask anything about him or his day. She said she's going to spend the rest of her life gaining his trust back, but she... also said she'd reach out to me again once she's in a better headspace.

I need to close the door on this now. I know that.

Wow! the moral high horse guy is a piece of shit inserting himself into someone else's marriage!

[remy]

oop

[JoeBoy101]

Blueballs is jeffmarvel imo

The timing matches up, he signs up and starts angry posting about stalking the day after benji posts jeff's house

I find it amusing that you’re so unused to having your echo chamber disrupted that you can’t engage in a debate without trying to figure out the other person's identity.

It must be tough when you can’t just make up a bunch of stuff about someone

It’s been a slow few days and people have been itching for drama. You’re not that important, whomever you are. And again, bold strategy Cotton, throwing out the echo chamber, when Era is one of the most aggressively policed echo chambers of them all.

And the truth is, the below is your future here.



You won’t be banned. You won’t be run off, but you’ll get frustrated that we’re just not all that offended that you’re here, unlike the ‘welcoming and accepting’ forum that bans users left and right for wrongthink. And you’ll just disappear.

But hey, feel free to stick around. Disagreement is welcome, and I certainly don’t mind debate. I just know that debate is not why you’re here.

[Besticus Maximus]

Blueball is most definitely not Zeo lol. Zeo doesn't post like that. Notice how Blueball only seems to post in a certain tone. They also post like they mainline r/gamingcirclejerk lol. They are either Nep or some other era mod.

Just ignore them as they're not interested in having a proper convo about anything.

I reckon it’s him, he’s doing the same thing he does when he gatecrashes on Reddit etc banging on about post counts and how other people are losers for being interested in how mental he is. Plus he turns up after benji posts his grief hole. I’m 80% Jeff marvel certain.

[Straight Edge]

Debate

Blueballs “resetera is not for retards”

Hate site bire “exhibit A”
https://www.resetera.com/threads/need-to-cheer-myself-up-recommend-me-happy-positive-wlw-video-games.1007877/

[Nintex]

Wow! the moral high horse guy is a piece of shit inserting himself into someone else's marriage!

What's amazing is that he paints himself as the 'victim'. Not the unloved woman or the kid but Mr. fuck around and find out. From the story it seems like she wanted to relive her 'high school' fling because she felt unloved by her husband. Overall it seems like a very messy situation had a good outcome for all parties involved because the husband wasn't too hard on her. 


But really what is Mass Effect actually about?

Nintex enabling his crazy eyes redhead to red max and genocide the unbelievers, that's what. 






Me + You  

[remy]

I mean sure things are a little awkward for the 4 year old but can we talk about the real problem here : sonny Indonesian isn't getting pussy anymore!

[Cauliflower Of Love]

imagine caring about what the the bire thinks

[Uncle]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/tim-cain-violence-as-the-default-in-aaa-rpgs.1072836/page-2#post-133746972



In times of conflict, Toma arrived with new content.

I mean, has Toma played ME1? It’s a great game, but how exactly do you play it without violence?

it's like fundamental to humanity that conflict and struggle is fun and exciting

even stardew valley as a peaceful sleepy little farm game benefits from a dungeon with combat

there's a reason that movies like My Dinner With Andre aren't usually blockbusters

[PogiJones]

You guys posting that terrible sea lion cartoon is putting me on blueball's side 

[Uncle]

You guys posting that terrible sea lion cartoon is putting me on blueball's side